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Why is socializing so hard??? No.225

I don't even feel a need to actively mingle with people, I just make myself do it to not seem like a complete NEET.
but I always hate it.
I would much rather prefer just lying in my room listening to comfy music while i change my wallpaper to anime girl of the season.

how do you guys go about talking to others?

No.226

I spazzed out on that last line fml

No.228

>>225
i do it for her

No.229
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>>228
_so brave_

No.230

>>229
i was being serious, don't judge

No.231
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>>225
y-you wouldn't watch me with VLC, w-would you anon?

No.232

everything i say has a string of possible consequences i have to think about. tell 1 person something and they may tell everyone they know, who might tell everyone they know, etc. tell 1 person something in a room of 10 people and it's 10 times worse

No.238

>>230
no judging, genuine admiration

No.239

>>231
that's why i only use PotPlayer, VLC has failed me too many times

No.241

>>238
ok, thank you

No.242

>>239
I like mpv, haven't ever used PotPlayer

No.243

>>232
i think about scenarios and they many ways they could go ahead of time. kinda weird

No.246

>>243
I assume most people do this but it is easier for some than others, and more unconscious. i definitely worry/plan more than most though

No.248

>>243
the worse part about this is thinking of the worst possible outcome and not doing anything at all fearing that the worst could happen.

sometimes I'm really envious of super extroverted and impulsive people

No.250

>>248
i alwasy think of the worst possible outcomes first but i plan to avoid them and i mostly do. i can be impulsive sometimes but i stopped because i cant stand myself

No.251

>>248
anxiety blows things out of proportion, but so does hope, just in the other direction. there are plenty of extroverted people who never consider the consequences of their actions and i would prefer to err on the side of caution than to become like them. that being said, the more i improve my social skills, the safer it is to engage socially.
>>250
yeah when i see someone else doing what i've done in the past and hate myself for it i start avoiding situations like social stuff

No.252

>>251
yes neet anon we all avoid social stuff on here. revel in your neet-comradery :D

No.253

>>252
there are always exceptions, people that i am totally comfortable to be around, typically through a layer of anonymity. life isnt all bad

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i wish i could help you anons, i don't have any friends but recently i don't feel anxiety around people or imagine the worst possible outcome anymore, only regular nerves and they disappear after a while.
>>250
>>251
i think most extroverted people try too hard to impress each other and don't realize it. it makes me avoid social stuff too

No.336

If I'm ever in the position where I have to talk to someone, I usually try to keep the conversation as distant as possible. Preset phrases, pop culture references, and recent news pieces are good enough to make it seem like you're not a freak. That's how I'd like it to go anyway, as soon as I'm next to someone anxiety takes over and my brain shuts down. I can't think of anything and if I do get something out its in a stuttery mess and I make myself look like a fool as usual.

No amount of talking to people has helped fix this either. I've been told I'd grow out of it or get used to it but I don't think that's the case with me.

No.338

I haven't talked to anyone who isn't my parents in months so I kind of just stopped worrying about social interaction

No.339

>>338
how do you manage with stuff, like getting food or paying bills?

or do you still live with your parents?

No.340

>>339
I'm a neet and my country doesn't even have neetbuxs so moving out isn't an option

No.1360

bampu
can someone help me? is there any book or something that helped you guys?

No.1365

>>1360
Alcohol

No.1366

>>1360
dood can help u

No.1371

>>1365
I'm really considering it, I drank beer with my family at a restaurant, it didn't taste good or bad but I felt good and relaxed
>>1366
admin samaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

No.1373

>>1371
>admin samaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
Imageboard admins dont give a shit if trolls are fucking up their community. You should have learned that by now.

No.1374

>>1373
Take it back!

No.1565

Not sure what the problem is: I work from home, and order everything to my doorstep.
My parents are dead and I have almost no interaction with people other than things like postmen, neighbors (a distant "hello") and the occasional cashier, when I manage to go to an actual grocery store.

No.1568

>>1565
If you don't mind me asking, what do you work as?

No.1569

>>1568
Embedded programmer and hardware design.
I have some of the development devices at home, but most of the work environment can be simulated anyway, so I really just need computers to do my work.
However, there are unsuspected downsides to working at home all the time, but also work for a company, and now being self-employed.

No.1570

>>1569
How long have you been employed? Have you ever been a NEET?

No.1571

>>1569
Wow embedded people are getting rarer to find these days. I've only dabbled in a little bit of hw design, but things like timing issues and nondeterminism made me never want to touch anything below assembly level.

No.1572

>>1569
wow, what kind of education/experience do you need for something like that?

No.1574

>>1572
It took me forever to finish my degrees, because I didn't want to leave my house, also, since my parents died, I had to do plenty of utterly shitty jobs, which scarred me for life, on top of being already socially awkward.

>>1570
I've graduated in 2011, and I've been employed for a couple years now, but all throughout my live, I had years where I was just doing nothing or the bare minimum just to pay rent, etc.
My parents were relatively poor, since they died, I inherited nothing. I only have my 1-bedroom apartment and that's it.

I hate going to work. I'm perfectly fine working from home on my own accords, but as I said in my previous post: working at home has its downsides. The company I work for simply assumes I sit down to work at around 8:00 and work till around 16:00. I wake up very early, usually around 5:00, take a walk and a breath of fresh air when nobody else is outside, and then do a bit of private shit. I sometimes like to lie down during the day for a couple hours, but given that all the other employees simply assume I'm at work I get calls all the time, asking for stuff, etc.

I can't simply tell them not to call me during work hours, etc. Just today I got a call at 7:50 because my co-worker assumed I'm already awake. I was actually looking through ebay, and wasn't really ready for work at all. If it was an office environment, I'd be either at my desk or not. I sometimes get calls at 18:00 or so, because people simply know I must be home, etc. and they simply think nothing of it.

I must log out of Teams and put my phone on Airplane mode while not working, otherwise I get bombarded with calls and messages.

So yeah, it's not like just because I work at home I can escape interactions like that.

No.1589

>>1574
You just described the dark side of bringing work home. My cousin's a manager, and he has to take calls even when he's with family.

No.1591

>>1589
Yes, however the same is true if you're self-employed or have a little company going. You're basically at work 24/7.

Granted, I don't have a family, I have literally no one. I leave my apartment around once a week to get groceries, in the mean time, I simply don't leave my apartment - there's simply no reason for it.

I'm 37 now, and I don't think I'll ever find a partner in life ever, it's just not feasible, also I don't really want it to begin with.

I had a relationship with a woman for 11 years, we lived together, etc. However we lived ourselves apart and we ended up sleeping at different times during the day, and the only interaction was fighting. I eventually terminated the apartment lease and moved to a small, one-bedroom apartment. This is where I live now.

I'm pretty much right back at where I was 15 years ago. I have income, but other than that, neither I have nor I even want interaction with anyone.