I don't even feel a need to actively mingle with people, I just make myself do it to not seem like a complete NEET.
but I always hate it.
I would much rather prefer just lying in my room listening to comfy music while i change my wallpaper to anime girl of the season.
how do you guys go about talking to others?
I spazzed out on that last line fml
everything i say has a string of possible consequences i have to think about. tell 1 person something and they may tell everyone they know, who might tell everyone they know, etc. tell 1 person something in a room of 10 people and it's 10 times worse
I assume most people do this but it is easier for some than others, and more unconscious. i definitely worry/plan more than most though
the worse part about this is thinking of the worst possible outcome and not doing anything at all fearing that the worst could happen.
sometimes I'm really envious of super extroverted and impulsive people
i alwasy think of the worst possible outcomes first but i plan to avoid them and i mostly do. i can be impulsive sometimes but i stopped because i cant stand myself
anxiety blows things out of proportion, but so does hope, just in the other direction. there are plenty of extroverted people who never consider the consequences of their actions and i would prefer to err on the side of caution than to become like them. that being said, the more i improve my social skills, the safer it is to engage socially.
yeah when i see someone else doing what i've done in the past and hate myself for it i start avoiding situations like social stuff
there are always exceptions, people that i am totally comfortable to be around, typically through a layer of anonymity. life isnt all bad
i wish i could help you anons, i don't have any friends but recently i don't feel anxiety around people or imagine the worst possible outcome anymore, only regular nerves and they disappear after a while.
i think most extroverted people try too hard to impress each other and don't realize it. it makes me avoid social stuff too
If I'm ever in the position where I have to talk to someone, I usually try to keep the conversation as distant as possible. Preset phrases, pop culture references, and recent news pieces are good enough to make it seem like you're not a freak. That's how I'd like it to go anyway, as soon as I'm next to someone anxiety takes over and my brain shuts down. I can't think of anything and if I do get something out its in a stuttery mess and I make myself look like a fool as usual.
No amount of talking to people has helped fix this either. I've been told I'd grow out of it or get used to it but I don't think that's the case with me.
how do you manage with stuff, like getting food or paying bills?
or do you still live with your parents?